Motive in questioning is highly significant. Always ask first, “I may ask this question.” Never ask a question unless you are prepared for the answer; the facts may be quite different from what you currently believe. Although there is a potential for emotional upset through the unwise use of this method, experience has shown that continuing the line of inquiry will enlarge the context and heal the disturbance. Let us say a young woman states, “My boyfriend is honest” or “He is good for my life” and the answers are negative. She is disappointed to find that his love is selfish and his interest
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Asking the question
