Remember, the idea is not to fight, and a good relationship is not about determining who is right and who is wrong. It’s about finding a way forward together. A common intervention that psychotherapists make when working with couples is to say, ‘You can choose between being right, or being together’. As I’ve said before, bear this in mind if you feel wrongly accused: the accusation is about how the other person feels and they will not feel better if they are made to feel wrong as well.
