The acceptance of betrayal is about accepting the following: 1. All men, and gay men in particular, have shortcomings. 2. Betrayal is a product of the betrayer’s woundedness and not the fault of the betrayed. The underlying dynamic of this acceptance is the realization that betrayal has a predictable and knowable cause: emotional woundedness. If we wish to have a relationship that is free of betrayal, then we must either find a partner who is not wounded or find a partner who is willingly and actively working on his own emotional wounds. Of course, the former is difficult if not impossible to
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