(a) the facts in our stories don’t determine the stories in which they appear, despite what our minds tell us. Many stories are possible. And (b) the facts are significant because of the stories they are part of. This means that what really can make a difference is something that might be capable of being changed. We know the facts. They will not change. But the story about the facts, and the self-conceptualization resulting from that story, are aspects of our lives we’ve been prevented from changing because of our attachment to and fusion with them. Perhaps that (our story and our attachment
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