Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior

by Mark Goulston

They seem unthreatening, incapable of hurting you. But they are also incapable of giving much. You feel that if you prop them up enough, they will eventually be capable of giving something back.

I’ve definitely made excuses for people but deep down I fear this is how I am perceived. Because I CAN be like this in some relationships.

Tell a core-of-hater your goals and aspirations, and he will try to deflate your enthusiasm and maybe even root against you.

Dad- and myself later on as a result.