For that purpose of guiding truly experiential work, there is a style of phrasing that is particularly effective for verbalizing the retrieved emotional truth of the symptom—the style used in the overt statement offered to Richard above: “Feeling any confidence means I’m arrogant, self-centered, and totally insensitive like Dad, and people will hate me for it, so I’ve got to never feel confident, ever.” That style of vivid, present tense, first-person, emotionally candid, highly specific phrasing for naming one’s living knowledge of what is at stake, what one’s vulnerabilities are, and what
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