there are children who do have great natural gifts, and those gifts should certainly be recognized and encouraged. But not at the expense of the other siblings. When one child stakes out his or her area of special competence, let’s be on guard about excluding the others from that area. And let’s make sure that the others don’t exclude themselves. Let’s be wary of statements like, ‘He’s the musician in the family’ . . . ‘She’s the scholar’ . . . ‘He’s the athlete’ . . . ‘She’s the
