Lately I’ve been asking him, “How would you like it if she did that to you?” But he never answers me. Why is that? The question puts him on the spot. Were he to answer you honestly, he’d have to admit that he wouldn’t like it. If you want your son to be able to consider another point of view, make a simple statement that gives him credit: “I’m sure you can imagine how that would feel if that were done to you.” Now he has to think, “Can I imagine it? What would it feel like?” But he doesn’t have to answer to anyone except himself. And that’s good enough.
