What magnetizes parents’ anxiety more toward one child than another? It may be that at the time of birth, because of special circumstances, anxiety is very high. As we know, anxiety is not always dealt with in logical ways. Sometimes it is diverted around the system. This is not a thought-through process, enacted by a family in order to “do in” one of its children. Rather, it is entirely out of awareness. It is automatic. If the anxiety is high at the time of the birth of a child, however, it can circuit around the emotional unit, triggering an over-focus on the child. Once it gets started,
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