The family projection process is not intentional, it is entirely automatic. Parents have no idea of their part in the problem. Often, however, when they learn about the concept and that they are contributing unwittingly to the problem, they are able to modify their part to some extent with wonderful results. Not only is the process automatic and out of awareness, it has to do with their connectedness into their generations. They, too, were the recipients of parental anxiety, and their parents before them. The process is too big in all of our families to leave room for blame.
