My point here is that part of the assumption behind your fear of angry attacks is that you must give and receive anger (even moral anger), or give and receive it at higher levels than you would like—at the same levels that work for non-HSPs. But maybe you don’t. Why not ask others to express their needs and complaints without anger? If they do turn up their emotional volume, why not tell them to turn it back down because “that doesn’t work for me”? If they can’t, why not say you need a time-out until they calm down? Why not a permanent time-out from a relationship that features excessive
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