Emotional Intelligence

by Daniel Goleman

The immune system is the “body’s brain,”

Felten began by noting that emotions have a powerful effect on the autonomic nervous system,

then detected a meeting point where the autonomic nervous system directly talks to lymphocytes and macrophages,

dozens of studies pointing to the power of anger to damage the heart.

being prone to anger was a stronger predictor of dying young than were other risk factors such as smoking, high blood pressure,

“It’s the most important relationships in your life, the people you see day in and day out, that seem to be crucial for your health. And the more significant the relationship is in your life, the more it matters for your health.”

The three most common emotionally inept parenting styles proved to be:

Parents, says Brazelton, “need to understand how their actions can help generate the confidence, the curiosity, the pleasure in learning and the understanding of limits” that help children succeed in life.

how to learn.

Thus punishment came not so much because of what the child had done, but by virtue of how the parent felt.

This hair-trigger phenomenon is a hallmark of emotional trauma of

Fear conditioning

REEDUCATING THE EMOTIONAL BRAIN

the steps to recovery from trauma.

Kagan finds that children who are overly sensitive and fearful grow into shy and timorous adults;

The timid children

THE NEUROCHEMISTRY OF TIMIDITY