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AT THE BOTTOM OF EVERY ONE OF YOUR FEARS IS SIMPLY THE FEAR THAT YOU CAN’T HANDLE WHATEVER LIFE MAY BRING YOU.
ALL YOU HAVE TO DO TO DIMINISH YOUR FEAR IS TO DEVELOP MORE TRUST IN YOUR ABILITY TO HANDLE WHATEVER COMES YOUR WAY!
WHATEVER HAPPENS TO ME, GIVEN ANY SITUATION, I CAN HANDLE IT!
As I began to do things on my own, I began to taste the deliciousness of an emerging self-confidence.
THE FEAR WILL NEVER GO AWAY AS LONG AS I CONTINUE TO GROW.
THE ONLY WAY TO GET RID OF THE FEAR OF DOING SOMETHING IS TO GO OUT AND DO IT.
THE ONLY WAY TO FEEL BETTER ABOUT MYSELF IS TO GO OUT . . . AND DO IT.
NOT ONLY AM I GOING TO EXPERIENCE FEAR WHENEVER I’M ON UNFAMILIAR TERRITORY, BUT SO IS EVERYONE ELSE.
You must feel the fear . . . and do it anyway.
If you have not been successful in dealing with fear, you probably never learned the Fear Truths, and interpreted fear as a signal to retreat rather than as a green light to move ahead.
PUSHING THROUGH FEAR IS LESS FRIGHTENING THAN LIVING WITH THE UNDERLYING FEAR THAT COMES FROM A FEELING OF HELPLESSNESS.
I AM POWERFUL AND I LOVE IT!
Pain-to-Power Vocabulary as follows:
with each risk you take, each time you move out of what feels comfortable, you become more powerful.
Taking responsibility means never blaming anyone else for anything you are being, doing, having, or feeling.
Look around and see who you would love to include in your circle of friends . . . then pick up the phone and make plans to get together. Don’t sit around waiting for them to call you.
It is reported that more than 90% of what we worry about never happens.
Weak words meant a weak arm. Strong words meant a strong arm.
Positive words make us physically strong; negative words make us physically weak.
you don’t practice, you lose the skill. This is the point most people don’t seem to understand.
Once you get your body in shape, you can’t stop working out. Within a short time your muscles start losing tone, and where you once could do fifty sit-ups, twenty is now your maximum. You must keep at it. The intellect acts in the same way. When problem solving, stimulating discussion or reading is a part of your daily life, your mind is sharp. After a two-week vacation of lounging on the beach, your brain feels soggy.
I can’t stress enough that positive thinking needs daily practice.
“the best victory is the one in which everyone wins.”
“You know, Dad, I love you very much, and until you start respecting who I am, I am going to stay away from you. Right now I need people to support me and love me, and that’s not what I feel coming from you.”
For some reason we feel we should be perfect, and forget that we learn through our mistakes. Our need to be perfect and our need to control the outcome of events work together to keep us petrified when we think about making a change or attempting a new challenge.
Furthermore, you are already fearful about the next decision you have to make, because you will have to go through the whole agonizing process once again.
Notice that what lies ahead are simply two paths—A and B—both of which are right!
Some, including his father, saw those two years at law school as a waste of time, but Alex never saw it that way. By trying it out, he discovered that being a lawyer was not for him. Finding out what you don’t like is, paradoxically, as valuable as finding out what you do like.
the “lucky” ones in life are those who have been forced to face things in their lives that we all hope we will never have to face—things such as losing a job, the death of a loved one, divorce, bankruptcy, illness. Once you have handled any of those things, you emerge a much stronger person.
security is not having things; it’s handling things.
Focus immediately on the No-Lose Model. Affirm to yourself, “I can’t lose—regardless of the outcome of the decision I make.
“YOU’RE NOT A FAILURE IF YOU DON’T MAKE IT; YOU’RE A SUCCESS BECAUSE YOU TRY.”
My concept of the model looks like this:
If I am not making any mistakes, I can be sure I am not learning and growing.
SO WHAT! I’LL HANDLE IT!
SAY YES TO YOUR UNIVERSE (an obvious one); I AM FINDING VALUE IN EVERYTHING THAT HAPPENS TO ME; LET GO.
FEEL THE FEAR . . . AND DO IT ANYWAY!
even if you perceive that someone has mistreated you, find the lesson you learned from them and put the contribution on your list.
“I RELEASE MY FEAR OF LACK AND ACCEPT THE ABUNDANCE AND PROSPERITY OF THE UNIVERSE,” and whenever you feel fear relative to money, or anything else for that matter, repeat this affirmation.
When you are a giver, you have nothing to fear. You are powerful and you are loving. The trick in life is not figuring out what you can get, but what you can give.
