Taking responsibility means not blaming yourself. I know this sounds contradictory, but it is not. Anything that takes away your power or your pleasure makes you a victim. Don’t make yourself a victim of yourself! For some, this is more difficult than not blaming others. Once you’ve become aware that you have created so much of your unhappiness, you may have a tendency to punish yourself and put yourself down. “There I am messing up my life again. I’m hopeless. When will I ever learn?” This, again, is not taking responsibility for your experience of life. It is important to understand that you
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