You are disgraced because you acted less than human, you were treated as if you were less than human, or you were associated with something less than human, and there are witnesses.
Some, like me, exist in two worlds. We were shamed by being rejected, made to feel at the core of our being unloved. In our effort to be loved we chose to act in ways that hurt someone and so we earned shame. Shame because of others and shame because of ourselves
