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June 17 - July 14, 2021
ensure that what we sacrifice for is worthy of that commitment,
It’s natural to want the people you love to be happy. What can often be difficult is understanding what your role is in that.
In sacrificing for something worthwhile, you deeply strengthen your commitment to it.
capabilities—fall into one of three buckets: resources, processes, and priorities.
Resources are what he uses to do it, processes are how he does it, and priorities are why he does it.
removing the circumstances in which they can develop processes.
selflessly devote themselves to providing their children with enriching experiences
Parents overdoing stuff ends up harming their children
self-esteem comes from achieving something important when it’s hard to do.
By sheltering children from the problems that arise in life, we have inadvertently denied this generation the ability to develop the processes and priorities it needs to succeed.
solve my own problems whenever possible;
Children need to do more than learn new skills. The theory of capabilities suggests they need to be challenged. They need to solve hard problems. They need to develop values. When you find yourself providing more and more experiences that are not giving children an opportunity to be deeply engaged, you are not equipping them with the processes they need to succeed in the future.
is it going to give me the experiences I need to wrestle with?”
The value of giving people experiences before they need them plays out in many fields other than business.
if they’re not occasionally failing, then they’re not aiming high enough.
All they would have had to do was show up.
The important thing for a parent is, as always, to never give up; never stop trying to help your children get the right experiences to prepare them for life.
One of the most powerful tools to enable us to close the gap between the family we want and the family we get is culture.
The best tool we have to help our children do this is through the culture we build in our families.
Culture is a way of working together toward common goals that have been followed so frequently and so successfully that people don’t even think about trying to do things another way. If a culture has formed, people will autonomously do what they need to do to be successful.
learning what matters.
A culture is the unique combination of processes and priorities within an organization.
Left unchecked long enough,
Things will become worse.
It’s not just about controlling bad behavior; it’s about celebrating the good.
The problem is, life seldom works that way. It comes with no warning signs. Instead, most of us will face a series of small, everyday decisions that rarely seem like they have high stakes attached. But over time, they can play out far more dramatically.
That business purpose and business mission are so rarely given adequate thought is perhaps the most important cause of business frustration and failure.
the only metrics that will truly matter to my life are the individuals whom I have been able to help, one by one, to become better people.
When I have my interview with God, our conversation will focus on the individuals whose self-esteem I was able to strengthen, whose faith I was able to reinforce, and whose discomfort I was able to assuage—a doer of good, regardless of what assignment I had. These are the metrics that matter in measuring my life.
Fast-paced careers, family responsibilities, and tangible rewards of success tend to swallow up time and perspective.
