What To Say When You Talk To Your Self

by Shad Helmstetter

it gets down to the simplicity of one small but powerful fact: You will become what you think about most; your success or failure in anything, large or small, will depend on your programming––what you accept from others, and what you say when you talk to yourself.

follows that if every action you take, of any kind, is affected by prior programming, then the end results of your actions are equally affected––in short, how successful you will be at anything is inexorably tied directly to the words and beliefs about yourself that you have stored in your subconscious mind. And what is stored there, for most of us, was decided for us by someone else.

“on” and parts of us “off.” The brain’s infinitesimally small

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that of flying. Ordinarily, she is levelheaded and possesses an even disposition. But because

anything you do will affect how you do it. It doesn’t have to be feelings of like or dislike, joy or fear; all of your feelings affect your actions. How you feel about your job, your mate, your family, your money, your health, your self, and your success, will determine how you behave in each of these areas. If your feelings are positive and productive, your actions will follow. But what causes you to have the feelings which are so much a part of you? Did you get them by accident? What creates the way you feel about anything? Chance? Never. Your feelings are created, controlled, determined, or influenced

The Level of the Better You (“I am”) This is the most effective kind of self-talk we can ever use. In our self-talk vocabulary, Level 4 is the kind of self-talk that is needed most. It is at this level that you are painting a completed new picture of yourself, the way you really wanted to be, handing it to your subconscious, and saying, “This is the ‘me’ I want you to create. Forget all that bad programming I gave you in the past. This is your new program. Now, let’s get to work at it.” Level 4 self-talk is characterized by the words, “I am...” “I am organized and in control of my life. I am a winner. I am healthy, energetic, enthusiastic, and I’m going for it. Nothing can stop me now. I like who I am. I am in tune, on top, and in touch, and going for it. I have determination, drive, and self-belief. I am living the life I choose, and I choose what’s right.” You’ll notice that, once again, this self-talk is stated in the present tense. Always keep in mind that by stating your self-talk in the present tense, you’re not trying to kid yourself, or tell yourself something that isn’t true. What you’re actually doing is giving your brain a completed picture of the task. In essence you’re saying, “This is how I choose to be. This is who I want you to help me become.” Instead of struggling with the past Level 1 self-talk, the Level 4 self-talker deals with problems and opportunities

in a whole new, productive, self-activating way. The past procrastinator, who had been programmed to put things off, now says, “I do everything I need to do when I need to do it. I enjoy getting things done, and I enjoy doing things on time and in just the right way.” The past problem is turned around to begin creating ongoing daily success. Instead of saying, “I can never remember names,” the Level 4 self-talker automatically says, “I have a great memory. People are important to me, and I am able to remember any name I choose to remember, anytime I want.” Level 4 self-talk is the positive self-talk that is the opposite of Level 1. It replaces helpless “cannot’s” with vibrant “Yes, I can’s.” Level 4 self-talk inspires, encourages, urges, and implores. It tugs at our hearts, touches our hopes, and paints in the pictures that color our dreams. It excites, demands, and pushes us forward. It strengthens the armor of our spirit and hardens the steel of our determination. This is the self-talk that challenges us to do battle with our fears and end up the victor. It is the self-talk which stirs us to action, fills us up with self-belief, and plants our feet firmly on the solid bedrock of success. Name the adversary, state the problem, and you can find the self-talk that created it. But for every word of negative self-talk that has ever been uttered, there is the right kind of self-talk to counter it, reprogram, fix the problem, and make it right. Even reading the simplest example...

feel lonely, or become depressed:

change and making it permanent. Example Four: