What To Say When You Talk To Your Self

by Shad Helmstetter

what is the wall that stands in our way?

But as I read those books, studied the seminar concepts, and examined the best of the best motivational tools and techniques available, I realized that promise was, ultimately, unfulfilled. I

studying the success ideas and solutions that could work for us, I began to recognize that there was also something working against us.

“As a man thinketh, so is he.”

You will become what you think about most; your success or failure in anything, large or small, will depend on your programming––what you accept from others, and what you say when you talk to yourself.

Your sucess depends on what you think about most

the human brain—is what has been missing from most of the books and most of our motivational talks.

We are trying to force the brain to do something that it has not been programmed to do. We want to create success with “rules of success,” but that’s not how the brain works; that’s not how the brain is wired.

Those who appear to be “luckier” than the rest have actually only gotten better mental programming to begin with, or have learned how to erase their old negative programming and replace it with something better.

The brain simply believes what you tell it most. And what you tell it about you, it will create. It has no choice.

It follows that if every action you take, of any kind, is affected by prior programming, then the end results of your actions are equally affected––in short, how successful you will be at anything is inexorably tied directly to the words and beliefs about yourself that you have stored in your subconscious mind.

what is stored there, for most of us, was decided for us by someone else.

The human brain, that incredibly powerful personal biochemical computer that each of us has, is capable of doing for you anything reasonable that you’d like it to do. But you have to know how to treat it; you have to know how to wire it in the right way. If you do it right, and give it the right directions, it will do the right thing—it will work for you in the right way. But if you give your mental computer the wrong directions, it will act on those wrong directions; it will continue to respond to the negative programming that you and the ...

Meanwhile, during the same period, the first eighteen years of your life, how often do you suppose you were told what you can do or what you can accomplish in life?

Leading behavioral researchers have told us that as much as seventy-seven percent of everything we think is negative, counterproductive, and works against us. At

Repetition is a convincing argument.

After all, success, ultimately, is up to the individual. It isn’t the pen––it’s the writer; it isn’t the road––it’s the runner that counts.

in order to work, and keep working, the new idea (or message) has to become physically wired into your brain.

understanding how your brain gets wired, and the role you play in the wiring process.

An understanding of how your brain gets programmed puts you in direct control of the process of creating the change and making it last. 3.

which always begins with mental change––is: a new, word-far-word set of directions, new programming to both your ...

means a specific “programming vocabulary” which is worded in a specific way, that anyone can use at any time, to replace the old negative programming...

Whatever you put into your mind, in one way or another, is what you will get back out, in one way or another.

the storage device is our subconscious mind.

Messages we receive repeatedly are recorded and wired in to our subconscious minds.

what matters most is for you to understand that whatever is programmed into your own personal “mental” computer is permanently programmed.

This breakthrough came when we discovered the direct link between our own thoughts and the physical wiring of neural pathways and networks in our brains.

Those electrical impulses, the special mental commands that direct us, control us, and wire neural networks into our brains, are called thoughts.

moment of every day. Whatever “thoughts” you programmed into your brain, or have allowed others to program into you, are affecting, directing, or controlling everything about you. From

Can you imagine the number of times some child has heard the innocent but thoughtless words, “You’ll never amount to much,” or was told “that sport,” “that career,” “that mate,” or “that dream” was not right for him or her? Just imagine what our eager and open young minds perceived and believed.

As long as you and I allow others to program us in a way that fits their choosing, we are, without a doubt, out of control, captive to the whims of some unknown destiny, not quite recognizing that what hangs in the balance is the fulfillment of our own futures.

Why do so many therapists take their patients back to a time in their childhood when the problem was first created? Because that is where the beliefs began.

We have been trying to achieve our goals with our own onboard computer pre-programmed to hold us back––or fly us in the wrong direction.

Rewire. Erase and replace.

The more files we have in our mental filing cabinets, which tell us something about ourselves, the more we will attract and accept other thoughts and ideas which support and prove what is already stored in our files. The more you think about yourself in a certain way, the more you will think about yourself in that same certain way.

The longer you have bought the thought, the “truer” it is.

If everything you tell yourself about yourself becomes a directive to your subconscious mind, then anytime you make a statement about yourself that is negative, you are directing your subconscious mind to make you become the person you just described––negatively.

The human brain will do anything possible you tell it to do if you tell it often enough and strongly enough.

Unless we change the programs we gave to ourselves, the ones that told us we can’t seem to earn enough money, our subconscious will successfully accomplish its programmed task of keeping us earning less than we would like.

And as we, because of our conditioning, began to follow suit and say similar “Cannot’s” to ourselves, we fell into the unconscious habit of programming ourselves in the same wrong way as did our parents, friends, and others around us.

Much of our self-talk is made up of the quiet nudges of self-doubt, the unspoken fears of little (or grand) failures, and the nagging discomfort of knowing that things aren’t right.