What To Say When You Talk To Your Self

by Shad Helmstetter

Life, for most of us, should be pretty good.

endless opportunities, the fulfillment of our dreams, and a chance to live each day in a way that brings happiness and success. Most of us want and need at least a successful job or career, a good family life, and reasonable financial security.

Have you ever wondered, then, why things don’t work out the way they should? Why do we not get from life many of the things we would like to have—and

Why do some people seem to be “lucky,” while the great majority of the rest of us seem not to be?

What makes the difference? Is it kismet,

Can we have life full of achievements and fulfilment?

you can never really get anyone to do anything they don’t want to do unless you use force.

even the best-selling success solutions were able to create lasting changes

If there are so many answers to our questions about what to do to make life better, why have so many people failed at making these great ideas work? Or if they worked for a time, what makes them stop working?

You will become what you think about most; your success or failure in anything, large or small, will depend on your programming––what you accept from others, and what you say when you talk to yourself.

as research continues, the marvelous human brain is yielding up more and more of its secrets. Each day more progress is made,

An understanding of that simple function of our own personal computer—the human brain—is what has been missing from most of the books and most of our motivational talks.

The answer to the problem turned out to be the result of something that had been almost entirely overlooked: We are trying to force the brain to do something that it has not been programmed to do. We want to create success with “rules of success,” but that’s not how the brain works; that’s not how the brain is wired.

The reason why some people accomplish nearly any task more easily than others, achieve their goals more readily, and live their lives more fully, is this: Those who appear to be “luckier” than the rest have actually only gotten better mental programming to begin with, or have learned how ...

We now know that by an incredibly complex physiological mechanism, a joint effort of body, brain, and “mind,” we become the living result of our own thoughts.

It is no longer a success theory; it is a simple, but powerful, fact. Neither luck nor desire has the slightest thing to do with it. It makes no difference whether we believe it or not. The brain simply believes what you tell it most. And what you tell it about you, it will create. It has no choice.

Have you ever considered just how much of what you do––how you act, how successful you are––is dependent on the conditioning,

the programming you received from others, and on the conditioning you subsequently accepted and kept giving yourself?

every action you take, of any kind, is affected by prior programming, then the end results of your actions are equally affected––in short, how successful you will be at anything is inexorably tied directly to the words and beliefs about yourself that you have stored in your subconscious mind. And what is stored there, for most of us, was decided for us by someone else.

incredibly powerful personal biochemical computer that each of us has, is capable of doing for you anything reasonable that you’d like it to do. But you have to know how to treat it; you have to know how to wire it in the right way. If you do it right, and give it the right directions, it will do the right thing—it will work for you in the right way. But if you give your mental computer the wrong directions, it will act on those wrong

directions; it will continue to respond to the negative programming that you and the rest of the world have been giving it. You have literally been wiring your brain in the wrong way, physically—without even being aware of it.

don’t see, much less know

Leading behavioral researchers have told us that as much as seventy-seven percent of everything we think is negative, counterproductive, and works against us.

without anyone being aware of it, everything and everyone around us has been programming us. And they have been programming us in the wrong way.

What is mind programming and how it works? Is it possible to change our programming?

Unfortunately, most of the programming we received was the wrong kind of programming, but we took it to heart––and our brains wired it in. Year after year, word by word, our life scripts

self-images were created.

Repetition is a convincing argument. Eventually we believed what others told us and what we told ourselves most; we began to live out the picture of ourselves we had created in our minds.

we became what we most believed about ourselves. And in so doing, we created that wall of failure and self-doubt, which for most of us will stand invisibly but powerfully between us and our unlimited future for as long as our old programming remains in force. Unless the programming we received is erased or replaced with different programming, it will stay with us permanently and affect and direct everything we do for the rest of our lives.

After all, success, ultimately, is up to the individual. It isn’t the pen––it’s the writer; it isn’t the road––it’s the runner that counts.

As per neuroplasticity, what are the essentials

the new idea (or message) has to become physically wired into your brain.

understanding how your brain gets wired, and the role you play in the wiring process.

a new, word-far-word set of directions, new programming to both your conscious and subconscious minds.

The only solution that includes all three of the essential ingredients that create lasting change in the brain, is “self-talk.”

When you use any of the personal growth ideas and concepts that are available to you, the practice of self-talk—the practice of consciously and actively rewiring your brain with a more successful, new picture of

yourself––is the ingredient that rewires your brain and changes your future. But bear in mind that as you do this, it is essential to program in the right new self-talk. Whatever you put into your mind, in one way or another, is what you will get back out, in one way or another.

It makes no difference what you have thought or what you have done in the past. From this day on, you can, if you choose, change a little to gain a lot.

You can reprogram. You can rewire your life. You can erase the old negative, counterproductive, work-against-you programming and replace it with a healthy, new, positive, productive kind of programming. We’ve now learned how to do that: Rewire. Erase and replace. And it all starts with learning how to talk to yourself.

The more you think about yourself in a certain way, the more you will think about yourself in that same certain way.

The longer you have bought the thought, the “truer” it is.

The human brain will do anything possible you tell it to do if you tell it often enough and strongly enough.

we have a personal vote in the outcome of our own destiny.

subconscious mind is a sponge; it will believe anything you tell it––it will even believe a lie––if you tell it often enough and strongly enough. That part of the brain makes no moral judgments; it simply accepts what you tell it.

How you manage your self, what you do, how you act, each and every moment, every word you speak, motion you make, and action you take, or do not take, will determine how well anything in your life works for you. It does not take a wizard to tell us that when we do the right things, there is always a better chance that things will work better for us than when we do the wrong things.

The reason we don’t heed even our own advice is because of something else which affects, directs, influences, or controls all of our actions. That something that makes us do what we do is called our:

Every action we take is first filtered through our feelings. How we feel about something will always determine or affect what we do and how well we do it.

If we feel good or positive about something, we will behave more positively about it. Our feelings will directly influence our actions.

Your feelings about anything you do will affect how you do it.

It doesn’t have to be feelings of like or dislike, joy or fear; all of your feelings affect your actions. How you feel about your job, your mate, your family, your money, your health, your self, and your success, will determine how you behave in each of these areas.

If your feelings are positive and productive, your ac...