The example I will now give is the most important, most rewarding goal I’ve ever achieved. I had to use success spirals, precommitment, burnt ships, and a new environment. I was missing something which I needed and thought I could never have. I made a desperate plan, followed it for years, and acquired that missing piece. Many take this particular thing for granted, and some struggle with it, but few were ever as bad off as I was. Life without it was a combination of shame, fear, despair, and years spent escaping into books and video games. I lacked social skills.
