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June 5 - June 16, 2019
If you can come together in the spirit of understanding that you both contributed to what happened and there are things you both need to work on to repair the relationship, then you will heal the problems in your relationship and, ultimately, be in a position to restore trust.
That’s the key to problem solving without blame: You refuse to hear blame. You just hear a need.
Learn to listen.
Make each other feel the other matters.
Be fair.
Learn how to make decisions together.
Don’t belittle.
Don’t be controlling.
Forgiveness isn’t just the cherry on top of the sundae of reconciliation. It’s absolutely essential.
Without forgiveness, the hurt and anger never really end.
That’s what forgiveness is: a decision that you won’t let what the other person did stand between the two of you anymore.
Forgiveness glues relationships back together.
“The remembrance of past grievances was the single most significant obstacle to reconciliation and forgiveness.”
