One of the reasons anger addicts don’t apologize is that to sincerely do so would entail giving up the fix. The fix — the explosion and release of tension — allows the anger addict to maintain his equilibrium. It also gives him a high and a sense of Power Over. For as long as he can deny his responsibility for his anger and can accuse his partner of causing it, the abuser can continue to maintain his equilibrium and to get a high at his partner’s expense.
