Likewise, when we’re unmindful externally, the pleasant feelings in others could trigger jealousy or envy. The writer Anne Lamott expressed this possibility very clearly when she described how difficult it is for writers to accept the triumphs of other writers, especially a friend: “It can wreak just the tiniest bit of havoc with your self-esteem to find that you are hoping for small, bad things to happen to this friend, for, say, her head to blow up.”1
