The proximate cause for lovingkindness to arise is focusing on the good qualities in people, whether others or ourselves. We’re all a package of different qualities, some desirable, some not. When we don’t see the good in people and focus instead on their annoying, irritating qualities, it’s easy for ill will, judgments, anger, and even hatred to arise. But if we make it a practice to seek out and relate to the good in each person, then the feeling of lovingkindness grows quite naturally.
