The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem

by Nathaniel Branden

If I lack self-respect and consequently accept discourtesy, abuse, or exploitation from others as natural, I unconsciously transmit this, and some people will treat me at my self-estimate.

There is no greater barrier to romantic happiness than the fear that I am undeserving of love and that my destiny is to be hurt.

Poor self-esteem not only inhibits thought, it tends to distort it.

I can be loved by my family, my mate, and my friends, and yet not love myself. I can be admired by my associates and yet regard myself as worthless.

I can fulfill the expectations of others and yet fail my own; I can win every honor and yet feel I have accomplished nothing;

We must become what we wish to teach.