The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem

by Nathaniel Branden

Living consciously entails: A mind that is active rather than passive. An intelligence that takes joy in its own function. Being “in the moment,” without losing the wider context. Reaching out toward relevant facts rather than withdrawing from them. Being concerned to distinguish among facts, interpretations, and emotions. Noticing and confronting my impulses to avoid or deny painful or threatening realities. Being concerned to know “where I am” relative to my various (personal and professional) goals and projects, and whether I am succeeding or failing. Being concerned to know if my actions are in alignment with my purposes. Searching for feedback from the environment so as to adjust or correct my course when necessary. Persevering in the attempt to understand in spite of difficulties. Being receptive to new knowledge and willing to reexamine old assumptions. Being willing to see and correct mistakes. Seeking always to expand awareness—a commitment to learning—therefore, a commitment to growth as a way of life. A concern to understand the world around me. A concern to know not only external reality but also internal reality, the reality of my needs, feelings, aspirations, and motives, so that I am not a stranger or a mystery to myself. A concern to be aware of the values that move and guide me, as well as their roots, so that I am not ruled by values I have irrationally adopted...