Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires (Law of Attraction Book 7)

by Esther Hicks

You can feel whether you are allowing your full connection to Source Energy or not. In other words, the better you feel, the more you are allowing your connection; the worse you feel, the less you are allowing your connection. Feeling good equals allowing the connection; feeling bad equals not allowing the connection—feeling bad equals resisting the connection to your Source.

When you have lived an experience that helps you understand, in an exaggerated way, the very thing you do not want, you also understand, in an exaggerated way, what you do want. But when you are painfully aware of what you do not want, you are not in alignment with what you do want. When you desire something that you do not believe is possible, you are not in alignment. When there is something that you want and you are feeling unhappy that you do not have it, you are not in alignment; when you see someone who currently has the very thing that you desire and you feel jealous, you are not in alignment.

Every physical Being on your planet is your partner in co-creation, and if you would accept that and appreciate the diversity of beliefs and desires— all of you would have more expansive, satisfying, and fulfilling experiences.

Your vibrational Universe has the Law of Attraction as its basis. That means that your Universe is about inclusion. When you give your attention to something that you desire and you say yes to it, you are including it in your vibration. But when you look at something you do not want and you say no to it, you are including it in your vibration. When you give no attention to it, you do not include it, but you cannot exclude anything that you are giving your attention to, because your attention to it includes it in your vibration, every time, without exception.

There is no condition so severe that you cannot reverse it by choosing different thoughts. However, choosing different thoughts requires focus and practice. If you continue to focus as you have been, to think as you have been, and to believe as you have been, then nothing in your experience will change.

Sometimes our physical friends will say, “I’m stuck! I’ve been in this place for a very long time, and I can’t get out of it. I’m stuck!” And we always explain that it is not possible to stand still or be stuck, because Energy, and therefore life, is always in motion. Things are always changing. But the reason it may feel to you as if you are stuck is because, while you are continuing to think the same thoughts, things are changing—but they are changing to the same thing over and over. If you want things to change to different things, you must think different thoughts. And that simply requires finding unfamiliar ways of approaching familiar subjects.

Sometimes people will argue, “But Abraham, I’m only telling you what-is. I’m only facing the reality of the situation.” And we say that you were taught to face reality before you knew you were creating reality . . . do not face reality unless it is a reality you want to create—for any “reality” only exists because someone has focused it into being. Someone will say, “But this is a true thing, and therefore it deserves my attention.” And we say that you make whatever you give your attention to . . . your Truth. And so, it is extremely beneficial for you to focus primarily on the way you feel while giving only scant attention to the manifestations as they are unfolding, for whenever you are giving your primary attention to things as they are, you are hindering the expansion of what-is.

Appreciation and self-love are the most important aspects you could ever nurture. Appreciation of others and the appreciation of yourself are the closest vibrational matches to Source Energy of anything we have ever witnessed anywhere in this Universe. Whenever you are focused upon something you appreciate, since that current choice of thought is so similar to who you really are as Source Energy, there is no contradiction in your Energy. You are, in your moment of appreciation, offering no resistance to who you are, so your resulting emotional indication is one of love, joy, or the feeling of appreciation. You feel very good.

Now, occasionally, someone will accuse us of teaching selfishness. And we agree. Indeed, we do teach selfishness, for if you are not selfish enough to deliberately align with the Energy of your Source, you have nothing to give anyway. Some worry, “If I selfishly achieve what I want, wouldn’t I be unfairly taking it from others?” But that concern is based on the misconception that there is a limit of available abundance. They worry that if they take too much of the pie, others will be left with nothing, while, in reality, the pie expands in proportion to the vibrational requests of all of you. You never say, “I feel guilty about the abundance of good health that I have been living, so I have decided that I will be sick for the next couple years in order to allow someone who has been sick the opportunity to use my portion of wellness for himself.” For you understand that by your being well, you are in no way depriving another of the experience of wellness.

You must understand that the ultimate act of selfishness is to connect with Self. And when you do that, you are pure, positive Energy focused in this physical body. If everyone on your planet were connected to their own Source Energy, there would be no assaults, for there would be no jealousy, insecurity, or uncomfortable feelings of competition. If everyone understood the power of their own Being, they would not seek to control others. Any feelings of insecurity and hatred are born from your disconnection with who you are. Your (selfish) connection with Well-Being would bring only Well-Being.

Within 17 seconds of focusing on something, a matching vibration becomes activated. And now, as that focus becomes stronger and the vibration becomes clearer, the Law of Attraction will bring to you more thoughts that match. At this point, the vibration will not have much attraction power, but if you maintain your focus longer, the power of the vibration will become further-reaching. And if you manage to stay purely focused upon any thought for as little as 68 seconds, the vibration is powerful enough that its manifestation begins. When you repeatedly return to a pure thought, maintaining it for at least 68 seconds, in a short period of time (hours in some cases or a few days in others), that thought becomes a dominant thought. And once you achieve a dominant thought, you will experience matching manifestations until you change it.

When you remember that your emotions indicate your degree of alignment with Source Energy and that the better you feel, the more you are allowing your alignment with the things you desire, then it is easier to understand how to respond to your emotions. Absolute alignment with your own Source Energy means that you know the following: • You are free. • You are powerful. • You are good. • You are love. • You have value. • You have purpose. • All is well.

If you could throw yourself into taking some action, you might feel better; if you could put what is bothering you out of your mind altogether and focus upon your work, you could feel better. There are many thoughts that you could entertain that could free you from your depression. However, vibrationally, you do not have access to most of them right now. But if your intention is to find a thought, any thought, that feels better, and you are consciously aware of how that thought feels, you can begin to move up the Emotional Guidance Scale immediately. It is really a process of thinking a thought, any thought, and then consciously evaluating whether the new thought gives you any feeling of relief from where you were before that thought. So, you think and feel and think and feel, with one intention only: to feel even the slightest bit of relief. Let us say that someone has said something that made you angry, or someone did not keep her word. And as you focus upon this angry topic, you notice that you do feel some relief from your depression. In other words, in the midst of this angry thought, you are no longer having any trouble breathing. The feeling of claustrophobia has lifted, and you do feel slightly better. Now, here is the crucial step in effectively utilizing your Emotional Guidance System: Stop, and consciously acknowledge that your chosen thought of anger does feel better than the suffocating depression that it replaced. And in the conscious recognition of your impr...

The key to regaining your wonderful feeling of personal empowerment and control is to decide, right now, no matter how good or how bad you are feeling, that you are going to do your best to make the best of it. Reach for the best-feeling thought that you have access to right now, and as you do that again and again, in a short period of time you will find yourself in a very good-feeling place. That is just the way it works!

The feeling of desire is truly the feeling of life flowing through you. But many people, while they are using the word desire, feel something quite different. Desire, for them, often feels like yearning, for while they are focused upon something that they want to experience or have, they are equally aware of its absence. And so, while they are using words of desire, they are offering a vibration of lack. They come to think that the feeling of desire is like wanting something that they do not have. But there is no feeling of lack in pure desire. So, if you will keep in mind that whenever you ask, it is always given—then each of your desires will now be pure non-resisted desire.

Without even realizing what they are doing, they are holding themselves vibrationally apart from their own desires, so in time they come to believe that this sluggish, unfulfilled feeling of not getting what they want is really what desire feels like.

Once you have made a decision that nothing is more important than that you feel good, and you have decided that you are going to consciously look for some things to appreciate today, the object of your attention has now become the feeling of appreciation. You have now established a circuit between you and that object of appreciation that the Law of Attraction will begin working on immediately, so you will start seeing more things to appreciate right away.

Process #2 The Magical Creation Box

Process #5 The Prosperity Game

Any thought that you continue to think is called a belief. And many of your beliefs serve you extremely well: thoughts that harmonize with the knowledge of your Source, and thoughts that match the desires that you hold . . . but some of your beliefs do not serve you well: Thoughts about your own inadequacy or your unworthiness are examples of those kinds of thoughts.

“Well, Abraham, if I’ve been really negative for 50 years, is it going to take me 50 years to turn it around?” No, 15 minutes ought to do it. “In 15 minutes I can undo all of the disallowing that I’ve learned to do?” In 15 minutes you can allow—you do not have to undo anything.

We sort of see you from an aerial view, and it is like you are standing on one side of a closed door, and on the other side are all the things you have been wanting, just leaning up against the door, waiting for you to open it. They have been there from the first moment you asked for them: your lovers, your perfect bodies, your ideal jobs, all the money that you could ever imagine, all the things that you have ever wanted! Things little and things big, things that you would call extraordinary and significant and things that you would call not very significant—everything that you have ever identified that you have ever wanted will be lined up right outside your door.

If we were standing in your physical shoes, we would not let the reality of something be our basis for attention; we would let the feeling-vibration of it be our basis. So we would start saying to anyone who was interested in knowing what we were about, “If it feels good, I give it my full attention; if it doesn’t, I don’t look at it at all.” And you know what they’ll say to you? “You should face reality!” So answer back, “I do—I do it all the time. I’ve just become a more selective sifter of the reality that I face. Because I’ve begun to discover that whatever reality I’m facing; whatever reality I’m talking about, thinking about, remembering, regurgitating; whatever reality I’m making statistics of; whatever reality I’m holding for very long in my vibration, becomes my own reality. And I’ve become particular about the realities that I replicate in my experience because I’ve discovered that I can create reality. I can create reality! I can create reality—and I can choose the reality that I’m creating.” Oh, we love saying that to you. You are creators, and you can create anything that you want, but there’s a better way of saying it: You can and will create anything that you are giving your attention to.

Every subject is really two subjects: something that you desire, and the absence of something that you desire. If you do not understand that these are very different vibrational frequencies, then you may believe that you are focused on something that you desire, when you may, in fact, be focused in the opposite direction.

Once you have made a few statements that indicate how you really feel right now, make this statement to yourself: I’m going to reach for some thoughts about this subject that feel a little better. Now, once you have written each thought, evaluate whether it feels better, the same, or worse than when you initially began. So you write:

A good way to approach all this is: If the desire feels good to you, everything is going great. If the desire is uncomfortable, it means that you have a desire that is raging out there ahead of your belief, but then you can soothe that by saying, “We don’t have to do it right this red-hot minute. We’ll just hold this as a future idea. We’re not going to shut the idea down because we know it’s a good one. It’s not a perfect match for where we are right now, but someday that will be a part of it. For now, this is quite satisfying.”

“But I love getting my doing into the evolvement of it; the more intimately involved I am in my creations, the more satisfaction I’m receiving from them.” So we say, Then that is the right way for you. There is no right or wrong in this. Which feels better? Which thought feels better? To go into debt or to wait until later? To wait until later. Which thought feels better? To say that you have settled for less, or to say that this is part of your future experience? To say that this is part of my future experience. Which thought feels better? To be mad at yourself that your kitchen is not as modern as it can be, or to acknowledge that it is a perfect kitchen for now, and that it will always be growing—just like you will always be growing? Which thought feels better?

Physical Beings have a habit of gathering stuff around them. Most of you gather this stuff because it is the way you keep score; it is the way you fill time. In other words, you live in a physical world, and physical manifestation has become important to you, but then you get buried in the details of your manifestation. Most of you spend much of your time just looking for things, and it is not only because you have too many things to sort through, but it is also because the gathering of the stuff is contrary to the freedom that is inherent within all of you. We have talked of the feeling of sadness that feels empty. People often try to fill that feeling of emptiness with stuff. They buy one more thing and bring it home, or they eat something; in other words, there are lots of creative ways in which you have tried to fill that void. And so, it has been our encouragement to some: Discard everything from your experience that is not essential to your now. If you could just go through and release those things you are not wearing, release those things you are not using, release them and leave your experience in a clearer place, then the things that are more in harmony with who you are now will more easily flow into your experience. You all have a capacity for attraction, and when your process is clogged with stuff that you no longer want, the new attraction is slower—and then you end up with a feeling of frustration or overwhelment.

You have to feel good about great abundance before you will allow the pleasure of great abundance to flow into your experience.

Someone once said, “Abraham, you obviously haven’t been physical lately, for $100 won’t go very far.” And we said, You missed the point. You spend $100 one thousand times a day, and you have spent the equivalent of $100,000. And that will bolster your feeling of prosperity, you see. It is the way you feel that is your point of attraction.

It is much easier to go from a little thought of something that makes you feel good to more that makes you feel good to more that makes you feel good—than it is to be in a place where you are feeling bad, and then go right to a place where you feel good.

Do not try to save the world; save yourself. That means that you need to focus on what makes you feel good. The process of Pivoting is the tool that will bring you to what you want. It is the process whereby you consciously decide: Yes, I want to look for what I want, and I will no longer look in the direction of the lack of it.

Pivoting is the continual, hour-after-hour, segment-by-segment process whereby you choose the positive. It is the way you get to feeling good—and it is a way that you can get whatever you want.

Through exposure to life experiences, people often arrive at beliefs that hold them in a vibrational pattern that disallows their receiving of something they desire. And even though those beliefs are not serving them, many people defend their continual return to those unpleasant facts, arguing, “After all, they’re true.” We want to remind you that the only reason anything has manifested into a physical, tangible, definable truth is because someone has given enough attention to it to make that so. But just because someone else has managed to create their truth, it does not mean that it has any relationship to you or to what you will create.

In your attempt to document the facts and events of your time, you often, without knowing you are doing it, hold yourself in patterns of vibrations that make it certain that you will confirm the “truth” (or some fact you are studying) with your own life experience. This is not because it is an undeniable truth that you are witnessing, but it is because, in your attention to it, you have achieved vibrational harmony with it, so the Law of Attraction brings a matching experience to you.

Sometimes someone will say to us, “But Abraham, I cannot ignore this, for it’s true!” And we say, It is only true because someone has made it true by giving their attention to it. You see, what you are actually saying here is, “Because someone else has given attention to this and therefore, by the Law of Attraction, invited it into their own experience, I think I’ll do the same. In other words, even though I don’t want it, I’m obliged to create it in my own reality because someone else did.” There are many things that are true that you do desire. And there are many things that are true that you do not des...

So, here is the word that we want you to focus upon for the next few days. Here you stand in this fresh place. We love the freshness of where you stand. And now we want to show you how to stand in this fresh place and align your fresh Energy with fresh desire that will bring fresh and easy results.

your Inner Mind will begin to feed you in a consistent way; in a way that did not happen before you took a little time to align your Energy with your desire.

You summon the Energy because you want to do what you have to do, but then you divert the Energy, because you have all these habits or practiced statements that do not let it flow. When you have Energy flowing through you and you do not let it flow, it beats up on you pretty good. And now, because the Focus Wheel Process causes you to focus for a longer-than-usual period of time on a specific subject while you are deliberately reaching for thoughts that feel good, your point of attraction does change.

Because you are generally giving much more attention to the aspects of your life that you are living right now, whatever you are living is carrying more vibrational weight, so to speak, than what you are desiring or imagining. In other words, if you have a desire to be slender even though you are considerably overweight at the moment, the aspects of your now experience are probably outweighing the vibrations of your visualizations. Often people will say, “I’m not happy over here. I wish I could be over there.” But when asked what it is about over there that they desire, usually they will just explain to you what is wrong with being over here. Even though they use words such as, “I want to be over there,” or “I want what is over there,” their vibration is much more about over here where they now stand than about where they want to be.

You could pretend that you have more money than you have any sensible use for; pretend that you have so much money you do not know where to keep it all, and imagine you have tons of it in the pantry and under the bed. See yourself going to the bank with buckets of change that you are converting to dollar bills. See yourself taking $5, $10, and $20 bills and having them converted to $100 bills, just for sake of more efficient storage.

it is as easy to create a castle as a button. It is just a matter of whether you are focused on a castle or a button, but it can also be as satisfying to create a button as a castle. And whether it is a castle or a button, if you are using it as your object of attention, it is summoning the Life Force, and the feeling of the Life Force is what life is about; the reason that you are summoning it is inconsequential.

Your role is to utilize Energy. That is why you exist. You are an Energy-flowing Being—a focuser, a perceiver. You are a creator, and there is nothing worse in all of the Universe than to come forth into the environment of great contrast, where desire is easily born, and not allow Energy to flow to your desire. That is a true squandering of life. There is no high work or low work. There are just opportunities to focus. You can feel as fulfilled and satisfied in any task as in any other, for you are on the Leading Edge of thought, and Source is flowing through you—no matter what your endeavor is. You can be joyful at any endeavor where you decide to allow the Energy to flow. Spiritual versus material are not the choices. Everything about this physical, manifestational experience is spiritual. It is all the end product of Spirit. You have nothing to prove. Be the Spiritual You, and create like a physical fiend.

about lack of money and let in money. Success Is about the Joy You Feel We love seeing you applauding someone else’s success, because when you are genuinely thrilled by it, that means you are right on the track of your own. Many think that success means getting everything they want. And we say that this is what dead is, and there is no such thing as that kind of dead. Success is not about getting it done. It is about still dreaming and feeling positive in the unfolding. The standard of success in life is not the money or the stuff—the standard of success is absolutely the amount of joy you feel. You can say things such as, “When I look at successful people— and by that I mean rich people, yes, and I mean happy people— sometimes they are rich and happy.When I’m talking about the successful ones, what I really mean is the really happy people—people who are really joyful, who are eager to get on with their day. Almost all of them, without exception, had a pretty rough beginning, which turned them into powerful rebels, initially. Then they found a way to relax into their natural birthright of Well-Being.” (Success is about a happy life, and a happy life is just a string of happy moments. But most people do not allow the happy moments because they are so busy trying to get a happy life.)

Savor more; fix less. Laugh more; cry less. Anticipate positively more; anticipate negatively less. Nothing is more important than that you feel good. Just practice that and watch what happens.

• It is natural for my body to be well. • Even if I don’t know what to do in order to get better, my body does. • I have trillions of cells with individual Consciousness, and they know how to achieve their individual balance. • When this condition began, I didn’t know what I know now. • If I had known then what I know now, this condition couldn’t have gotten started. • I don’t need to understand the cause of this illness. • I don’t need to explain how it is that I’m experiencing this illness. • I have only to gently, eventually, release this illness. • It doesn’t matter that it got started, because it’s reversing its course right now. • It’s natural that it would take some time for my body to begin to align to my improved thoughts of Well-Being. • There’s no hurry about any of this. • My body knows what to do. • Well-Being is natural to me. • My Inner Being is intricately aware of my physical body. • My cells are asking for what they need in order to thrive, and Source Energy is answering those requests. • I’m in very good hands. • I will relax now, to allow communication between my body and my Source. • My only work is to relax and breathe. • I can do that. • I can do that easily.

• This sensation of pain is an indicator that Source is responding to my cellular request for Energy. • This sensation of pain is a wonderful indicator that help is on the way. • I will relax into this sensation of pain because I understand that it’s indicating improvement.

“This discomfort that I’m feeling is nothing more than my awareness of resistance. It’s time for me to relax and breathe, relax and breathe, relax and breathe.”

Every cell in your body has a direct relationship with Creative Life Force, and each cell is independently responding. When you feel joy, all the circuits are open, so the Life Force can be fully received. When you feel guilt, blame, fear, or anger, the circuits are hindered and Life Force cannot flow as effectively. Physical experience is about monitoring those circuits and keeping them as open as possible. Your cells know what to do; they are summoning the Energy.

There are many limiting thoughts in the human environment that can make it seem that these so-called incurable illnesses or unchangeable conditions cannot not be changed. But we say that they are only “unchangeable” because you believe they are. Someone asked us recently, “Is there any limitation to the body’s ability to heal?” And we said, None, other than the belief that you hold. And he asked, “Then why aren’t people growing new limbs?” And we said, Because no one believes they can.