Let’s consider the example of you and your partner: he or she brings a specific set of assumptions to the conversation. Your partner assumes something is wrong, and that he or she has a solution. Because you haven’t had a chance to think about it, and it sounds pretty good, you go along with it. But then you find yourself, and your partner finds you, not following through on the solution. You and your partner both conclude that you are neglectful or inadequate, or both. But, more likely, you haven’t really bought in to your partner’s way of thinking, and this is why you aren’t following
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