By thinking of himself as an agent representing his family, Sameer summoned the resolve to make an initial request for a higher salary and tuition reimbursement. This was an otherish strategy. On the one hand, he was doing what givers do naturally: advocating for other people’s interests. On the other hand, he intentionally advocated for his family, whose interests were closely aligned with his own. At the same time, he wasn’t pushing so far as to become a taker: he sought a balance in meeting his family’s interests and his company’s. “My value system means that I’m not going to do anything
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