Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One

by Joe Dispenza

Opportunity to Write

STEP 3: ADMITTING AND DECLARING Admitting: Acknowledge Your True Self Rather Than the Self You Show to Other People

Opportunity to Write Now, close your eyes and become still. Look into the vastness of this mind (and into yourself) and begin to tell it who you have been. Develop a relationship with the greater consciousness that is giving you life, by honestly and inwardly talking to it.

Now, take a moment and review what you have written and what you want to admit to this power.

Declaring: Outwardly Acknowledge Your Self-Limiting Emotion

By declaring the truth about yourself out loud, you are breaking the emotional ties, agreements, dependencies, attachments, bonds, and addictions to all those external cues in your present life.

When you verbalize who you have been, you also liberate energy stored in your body.

The servant has become the master. But the master now must let the servant know that he or she has been delinquent, unconscious, and absent. So it makes sense that your body will not want to relinquish control, because it does not trust you. But if you just open your mouth and speak out in spite of the body’s control, it will begin to feel lighter and relieved, and you will begin to be back in command.

If admitting is an inner acknowledgment, then declaration is an outward one.

Using the example of anger, you might say aloud, “I have been an angry person my whole life.”

the truth shall set you free.

STEP 4: SURRENDERING Surrendering: Yield to a Greater Power and Allow It to Resolve Your Limitations or Blocks Surrendering is the final step in this section, in which you are pruning away the habit of being yourself.

Einstein said that no problem could be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.

Most of us obstruct this mind because we go back to trying to resolve our problems by living within the same unconscious, habitual lifestyle. We get in our own way.

You can’t both surrender and try to control the outcome.

When you ask for help by simply releasing to a greater mind the emotion you have admitted and declared, you won’t have to: Bargain Beg Make deals or promises Commit halfway Manipulate Weasel Ask for forgiveness

Feel guilty or shameful Live with regrets Suffer from fear Provide excuses

Just surrender in . . . Sincerity Humility Honesty Certainty

Clarity Passion Trust

and then get out of...

The side effects of surrendering include: Inspiration Joy Love Freedom Awe Gratitude

Exuberance

When you feel joy or live in a state of joy, you have already accepted the future outcome that you want as a reality. When you live as if your prayers have already been answered, this greater mind can do what it d...

The most important synaptic connection you can make when it comes to this mind is to know that it is real.

If you begin to doubt, become anxious, worry, get discouraged, or overanalyze how this assistance might happen, you have undone everything that you originally accomplished. You got in your own way. You blocked something greater from helping you.

Examples of surrender statements: Universal mind within me, I forgive my worries, my anxieties, and my small-minded concerns, and I give them to you. I trust that you have the mind to resolve them much better than I could. Arrange the players in my world so that doors open for me. Innate intelligence, I release my suffering and my self-pity to you. I have mismanaged my inner thoughts and actions for long enough. I allow you to intervene and provide a greater life in a way that is just right for me.

Thankfulness is the supreme state of receivership.

Step 1: First, go through your induction technique and continue to become more and more used to this process to enter the subconscious mind.

Step 2: Next, by becoming aware of what you want to change about yourself in mind and body, “recognize” your own limitations. That is, define a specific emotion that you want to unmemorize and look at the associated attitude that is driven by that feeling. Step 3: Continuing on, inwardly “admit” to a higher power within you who you have been, what you want to change about yourself, and what you have been hiding. Then, outwardly “declare” what emotion you are releasing so as to free the body from the mind and break the bonds to the elements in your environment. Step 4: Finally, “surrender” this self-limiting state to a greater mind and ask that it be resolved in a way that is right for you.

Practice these individual steps regularly during your sessions, until they begin to become so familiar to you that they merge into one smooth ste...

With repeated practice, you can become so aware of the old patterns that you never allow them to manifest to fruition.

As an example, if you are overcoming a dependency on some substance such as sugar or tobacco, the more you are able to sense when the pangs and tugs of the body’s chemical addiction begin, the sooner you will be able to do battle against them. Everyone knows when the cravings start to occur. You begin to notice impulses, urges, and sometimes loud screams, which sound like, “Just do it! Submit! Give in! Go ahead—just this one time!” As you continuously forge onward and upward, in time you can notice when these cravings come up, and you will be better equipped to handle them.

Most thoughts are just old circuits in your brain that have become hardwired by your repetitive volition.

when you unmemorize the negative emotion of your personality, you eliminate the destructive unconscious behavior.

Calling someone to complain about how you feel

Procrastinating

Gossiping or spreading rumors

Throughout this next week, continue to review the list again so that you know even better who you no longer want to be.

awareness is your goal.

Here’s what happens when you use the tools of redirecting: You prevent yourself from behaving unconsciously.

Redirecting: Play the Change Game During your meditations this week, take some of the situations you came up with in the step just before, and as you picture them or observe yourself in your mind, tell yourself (out loud), “Change!” It’s simple: Imagine a situation where you are thinking and feeling in an unconscious way . . . . Say “Change!” Become aware of a scenario (with a person, for example, or a thing) where you could easily fall into an old behavior pattern . . . . Say “Change!” Picture yourself in an event in your life where there is a good reason to fall short of your ideal . . . . Say “Change!”

As you repeatedly interrupt the old program, your efforts will begin to further weaken the connections between those neural networks that make up your personality.

When you can stop a knee-jerk emotional reaction to some thing or person in your life, you are choosing to save yourself from returning to the old you that thinks and acts in such limited ways.

Associative Memories Trigger Automatic Responses

Earlier in this book, we saw that Pavlov’s classical-conditioning experiment with dogs beautifully illustrates why it can be so hard for us to change. The dogs’ reaction in that experiment—learning to salivate in response to a bell—is an example of a conditioned response based on an associative memory.

As one or two of the senses respond to the same cue, the body reacts without much of the conscious mind’s involvement.

By the same token, we live by numerous similar associative memories in our lives, triggered by so many known identifications derived from our environment. For instance, if you see someone you know well, chances are that you are going to respond in automatic ways without ever consciously knowing it.

Seeing that individual will create an associated memory from some past experience that is connected to some emotion, which t...

You’re out of the driver’s seat consciously because your subconscious body-mind is now controlling you.

This is why it is so difficult to stay conscious in the process of change.