It is looking to Jesus that enables you to function in God’s gymnasium. It takes away self-pity, as we consider what he endured for us without complaining. If he endured infinite suffering and loss for us, we should be able to endure finite grief and loss, knowing that God is working behind the hateful evil to bring out some good in our lives. If we keep our eyes “fixed” on Jesus, we will come through the pain and experience with the deeper peace that can be the result.