Getting Past Your Past: Take Control of Your Life with Self-Help Techniques from EMDR Therapy

by Francine Shapiro

NEGATIVE COGNITIONS POSITIVE COGNITIONS Responsibility: Being Defective I don’t deserve love. I deserve love; I can have love. I am a bad person. I am a good (loving) person. I am terrible. I am fine as I am. I am worthless (inadequate). I am worthy; I am worthwhile. I am shameful. I am honorable. I am not lovable; I’m unlovable. I am lovable. I am not good enough. I am deserving (fine/OK). I deserve only bad things. I deserve good things. I am permanently damaged. I am (can be) healthy. I am ugly (my body is hateful). I am fine (attractive/lovable). I do not deserve… I can have (deserve)… I am stupid (not smart enough). I am intelligent (able to learn). I am insignificant (unimportant). I am significant (important). I am a disappointment. I am OK just the way I am. I deserve to die. I deserve to live. I deserve to be miserable. I deserve to be happy. I am different (don’t belong). I am OK as I am. Lack of Safety/Vulnerability I cannot trust anyone. I can choose whom to trust. I am in danger. It’s over; I am safe now. I am not safe. I am safe now. It’s not OK (safe) to feel (show) my emotions. I can safely feel (show) my emotions. Lack of Control/Power I am not in control. I am now in control. I am powerless (helpless). I now have choices. I cannot get what I want. I can get what I want. I cannot stand up for myself. I can make my needs known. I cannot let it out. I can choose to let it out. I cannot trust myself. I can (learn to) trust myself. I am a failure (will fail). ...