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“She said that white men were the best, and Korean men were the worst.”
You can cheat destiny once, maybe twice if you’re lucky. But as Koreans, we understand that the course of our lives is invariably determined by our palja.
Swearing on your mother’s life is something so American, so white, that neither of us can truly understand it.
Little Oriental girls are nothing to worry about.”
Men like him hate being wrong, hate being embarrassed, hate not being in control. Men like him don’t know what to do when that happens, and they resort to childish displays of anger, temper tantrums, sulking.
The only power he has is the power you are willing to give him, and you’ve given him nothing. Not a scrap.
And when you take everything from him, you can say what these men say about us: He was asking for it. He was begging for it. He must have wanted it, since he didn’t fight back.
Fetishization is a form of oppression. I’m not an oppressor. I’m an ally! My feelings for you—no, my love for you—goes way beyond race.
