Kindle Notes & Highlights
by
Will Bowen
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January 17 - January 17, 2018
Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words, for they become actions. Watch your actions, for they become habits. Watch your habits, for they become character. Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.
“Losing feels worse than winning feels good.”
people experience loss more intensely than they do gain,
When we experience a significant increase in income or something else great happens in our lives, the switch gets tripped, causing us to feel anxious, and so we often create problems to reduce the tension of life being better than we feel we deserve.
Focus on your sacred purpose and you will enjoy, and quite probably increase, the rewards you receive. Focus on the rewards alone and they will never be enough.
There is no need to force anything, only to expand your awareness.”
Happiness is a conscious choice. It is a way of describing yourself, and when you begin to describe yourself as happy, you will begin to find supporting evidence for your being happy.
As you lie in bed at night, don’t count sheep to fall asleep. Instead, count things for which you are grateful.
If you think you are happy, if you define yourself as being happy, you will be happy.
To become a happier person, realize that what you find upsetting about other people may actually be something within yourself that needs to be brought up, addressed, and healed.
Happy people use their thoughts to reframe difficulties into challenges. They seek out what they can learn in difficult situations and how they can grow through them.
However, the amount of diminished grief we feel is small compared to the cumulative pain of fear, anxiety, and worry we string together over days, weeks, or even months of fretting about what might happen.
“Hating people is like burning down your own house to get rid of a rat.”
Forgiveness Doesn’t Necessarily Mean Reconciliation
If there is someone who habitually treats you harshly, you should wish that person well and create a mental picture of that person being happy, and then hold that vision until it becomes comfortable for you. This will open the spigot of happiness so it can flow to you. But you don’t have to invite that person to dinner or allow him or her back into your life.
People who hurt you are themselves hurting. If they have not worked to heal their pain, there is a good chance that they will attempt to displace their own suffering by hurting you. Wish them well, but keep your distance.
It’s not that married people are happier; rather, happy people tend to stay married!
“Fear precedes every lie ever told.”
People lie because they are afraid. People lie because they are afraid that they will be blamed for something. People lie because they are afraid of having to have an uncomfortable conversation. People lie because they are afraid that telling the truth might make them unsafe.
