before she offers to help someone, she asks herself three questions: What am I expecting in return? (reveals her motivation) Does this person want my help? (opens her awareness to the lived-experience of others) What is mine to do? (reminds her of assignment, vocation, call) Her final action is the answer, or the decision: to help or not to help. But her three questions leading up to the action are arrows, part of her discernment process that allows her to reach her decision.1
