What I would say to my teenage self, though, is that no one in history ever transformed from an asshole to a dreamboat just because their girlfriend really wanted them to. I’d tell her that no one expects you to resign yourself forever to a choice you made in high school. I’d tell her it’s okay to be “disloyal” to someone who’s hurting you. I’d tell her that it is never an unreasonable time to stop and ask of your relationship: Who is this person for whom I’m rewriting my story? Not who were they seven years ago, or who do I hope they’ll be, but who are they right now?
