This theology authorizes a husband to believe that God made him with the need for love and respect, and his wife is obligated to fill it—God himself commanded her. As a result, he believes that he is owed respect and that he has a right to be angry when his wife doesn’t fill this need. When we have a desire for respect and we don’t receive it, we are hurt. If we have a need for respect, we are devastated or angry.
