Correcting well deserves its own book. But affirmation, not correction, is the emphasis of this book. So instead of making a robust case for correcting well, this chapter simply warns against a few ways we tend to correct poorly, ways that may undo the good being accomplished by our affirmations. Even if we: are right, not wrong, possess the jurisdiction, the right, even the responsibility to say something, apply wise and loving rationale, have good motives, love the person deeply, have exactly the right wording, and have exactly the right tone of voice, all those things won’t matter in our
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