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“The punishment of every disordered mind is its own disorder.”
if you don’t have your shit together, it’s that very lack of togetherness that becomes your sentence to pain and suffering.
when you have to sit with the consequences of your actions, and you really don’t want to live with them, you almost have no choice but to gain a new perspective and become a different person.
They can kick the shit out of you. But they don’t have to, because they’ve already got full control of your mind. And it’s happened so slowly, so naturally, that you don’t even see it. It’s like when you fall in love with someone ’cause the sex is amazing, and you’re so blinded by pleasure that you can’t see what a bad person they are for you in the long run.
Because they can’t eat when you’re living right. Read that again: these monsters cannot eat when you’re living right. Why? Because they have no food. Their food is your attention. Their food is your trust. Their food is your unthinking obedience.
You miss out on the exhilarating adventure that is life, because you were busy clinging to safety and certainty.
I’ve been the biggest thing holding myself back. And the pain of your avoidance finally outweighs the payoff of comfort, and you’re pushed to make a change.
Once you start scoring these exciting new wins, you become happier and bring more of yourself to the table. And you feel so much more powerful because you’re finally being authentic, standing up for yourself, and getting more of what you want in life.
running from risk and playing small might never get you where you really want to go.
Letting go frees up so much energy and thought power. It will create space in your life, space that you need to grow into who you can be. More people, more opportunities, and more of life will flow into that space, because nature abhors a vacuum.
Stress is a limiter. The less we feel, the more we can take on.
doing a quick self-evaluation may prevent situations from escalating and let you learn something.
when you catch yourself wanting to avoid a challenge that might actually be good for you, you can stop and say, “Wow, I see I’m anxious about this. But I’mma be okay. I’m a grown-ass adult, and I can handle whatever comes my way. Even if I fail, I’ll learn something that will help me do it better next time.”
Do I wake up in the morning on time every day? And am I waking up to live a life I really want to be living? Am I keeping my word and investing in my relationships? When I have to be somewhere, am I late? How am I taking care of myself? How am I eating?
Self-awareness plus self-control equals the best possible life you could ever hope for.
The more you chase comfort, the more
unhappy you become. Because happiness isn’t about being comfortable; it’s about growing and improving. And by nature, growing is not comfortable.
I hope when that day comes for you, you’ll be going out on top. I hope you’ll look back and feel like a winner, and know that while you were given the honor of stepping on the field, you gave your all.
Happiness is what happens not just every time you conquer an obstacle but every time the obstacle temporarily conquers you, and you struggle to get back on your feet.
It’s easy to be happy when things are going your way. But true success is still being happy when they’re not, knowing that eventually, you will prevail, because you’re the one writing the rules of this game.
