It Will All Work Out: The Freedom of Letting Go

by Kevin Hart

“The punishment of every disordered mind is its own disorder.”

that it means if you don’t have your shit together, it’s that very lack of togetherness that becomes your sentence to pain and suffering.

you have to sit with the consequences of your actions, and you really don’t want to live with them, you almost have no choice but to gain a new perspective and become a different person.

step one is: You have to know your enemy. Learn how they operate. Find out what they eat. What they’re using you to get, and how they’re doing it. Once you’re able to recognize them, then you can start outsmarting them and put them back in their place.

Step one ...

you only fear what you don’t know.

any outcome short of success, you might pursue another, safer road. Or just not pursue one at all. That way, you and your Control Monster still get to minimize the risk of failing. It’s genius. ’Cause you can’t fail if you never try in the first place.

because you’re afraid. And you’re afraid because you don’t trust. Let me say it again: Any form of control, at the end of the day, is really just protection. And you get protective because you’re afraid of something bad happening. And the reason you’re afraid of something bad happening again is because you don’t trust yourself or others to handle a situation.

Every priority requires self-control. It’s useful anytime you want to change a habit.

Paired with awareness, self-control allows you to correct yourself and improve.

self-evaluation may prevent situations from escalating

And when you catch yourself wanting to avoid a challenge that might actually be good for you, you can stop and say, “Wow, I see I’m anxious about this. But I’mma be okay. I’m a grown-ass adult, and I can handle whatever comes my way. Even if I fail, I’ll learn something that will help me do it better next time.”

Self-awareness plus self-control equals the best possible life you could ever hope for.

The more you chase comfort, the more unhappy you become. Because happiness isn’t about being comfortable; it’s about growing and improving. And by nature, growing is not comfortable.

Remember, happiness isn’t some finish line way off in the distance. It’s something you can experience with every step along the way