Control is having power over a situation, yourself, or others, and being able to influence what goes down. To be “in control” is to be the one sitting in the driver’s seat, with your hands on the steering wheel. Moving toward or away from things as you see fit. If we call someone a controlling person, that usually means they’re somebody who never wants to let go of the wheel. They always want to be the driver. The one who determines the direction.
