You need to arrive at the point where you stop and think, God, I’m so lonely. I’m so unhappy. I never saw how I’ve spent so much time avoiding people, and not chasing the goals I’m afraid to fail at, and not speaking up for myself. It’s made me feel safe in the short term, but I think I’m actually worse off for it. I’ve been the biggest thing holding myself back. And the pain of your avoidance finally outweighs the payoff of comfort, and you’re pushed to make a change.
