“Again” is the key word, people. Because in the past, when somebody else was supposed to be in control, a situation likely turned out bad for you. Usually the moment some element of your early life got out of control—that’s the moment the Control Monster was born. It comes along and thinks that if it can control everything from now on, then you’ll be safe. That’s its number one priority: to support you in that particular environment where you weren’t safe, whether physically or emotionally.
