Counting the Cost

by Jill Duggar

By preventing us from discussing anything controversial or sensitive with each other, the instruction not to “stir up contention among the brethren” became a tool for silence, for control, for guilt.

I’d spent much of my life listening to IBLP teaching on the “umbrella of protection.” When I’d needed it most, it had failed me. It felt as though I, as a woman, was expected do all I could to protect Pops and Josh. Nobody appeared to see it differently.

You can recognize the beauty and happy parts of your story while also recognizing the more difficult parts. The two can coexist.

“Sometimes you have to be okay with other people not being okay with you. And you have to be okay with you not being okay too.”