For instance, if one’s partner cheated on them, they may try to understand why they did it. Was it because they were unhappy in the relationship, or because they had personal issues they were struggling with? It may hurt enormously to imagine that they cheated because of some inadequacy in you. But by examining the situation through their eyes, you realize that there’s a world of meaning and experience outside your own, and that they may have cheated for reasons that have nothing to do with how you’re seeing things. You may discover that they love you and they cheated—it may not be a position
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