“What do I do when I feel emotionally exposed?” “How do I behave when I’m feeling very uncomfortable and uncertain?” “How willing am I to take emotional risks?” Before I started doing this work, my honest answers would have been: Scared, angry, judgmental, controlling, perfecting, manufacturing certainty. Scared, angry, judgmental, controlling, perfecting, manufacturing certainty. At work, very unwilling if criticism, judgment, blame, or shame was possible. Taking emotional risks with the people I love was always mired in fear of something bad happening—a total joy killer that we’ll explore in
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