Experiencing an invalidating childhood creates a relationship template that consists of hoop-jumping to earn love, feeling guilty for expressing your own needs, and believing that abuse and invalidation are a part of a loving relationship, as well as having the fear and anxiety that arise from not being able to foster healthy attachments. In addition, the alternation between good and bad days means that such cycles not only are normalized but also that self-blame for those cycles is carried into adult relationships.
