variable empathy, entitlement, grandiosity, invalidation, dismissiveness, rage, manipulation, and gaslighting. Plan on these things happening. I tell folks in narcissistic relationships, “Don’t burn your umbrellas.” The good days in narcissistic relationships can undercut your realistic expectations and radical acceptance. When a day comes when they are bringing the charm, charisma, and some performative empathy, enjoy it for the sunny day it is, but don’t burn your umbrellas—it
