You want a therapist who does not blame or shame you, doesn’t ask you what your contribution is to the narcissistic person’s behavior, doesn’t scold you for wondering if a person in your life is narcissistic or toxic or gaslighting you, doesn’t ask you to keep giving second chances or to repeatedly set boundaries that are never honored, and, above all, who never asks you, “Why don’t you leave?” Therapy that is nonjudgmental, trauma-informed, genuine, and well-versed in how narcissism works is essential for survivors, especially when you are having ongoing contact with narcissistic people.
