If you stay, in most cases, there is no way to fully “work it out” with a narcissistic person. There will always be workarounds, minefields, and tension. It will never be easy. The person will not change, and your body and mind will not adjust to their impact on you. It’s important for you to know these limits because if you don’t, you can once again fall into the patterns of self-blame and think, “Oh, great, I can’t even heal right.” You are doing just fine. It’s a new status quo: the narcissistic relationship remains the same; you are the one who is changing. Remaining in a narcissistic
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